For the past few years I’ve been watching my friends and
myself go through our quarter life crisis. Why? Because, we all want something.
Problem is, we don’t know what that something is. You see, late teens and early
twenties are there to have fun, make mistakes, to be reckless. It was our time
to figure it out. Now that we’re in our mid to late 20’s, this is when the life
we were preparing for actually starts happening. We were told the we had plenty
of time to figure it out and now we still have no idea what we’re doing but
have to make some uneducated decisions anyway.
But we were young and the life we started then may not work
for us now and now we have it live with it because we worked so hard and it was
all for nothing if we change it all now but we’re still young and this is our
chance, if ever we will have one, to get it right and what will people think
and maybe it’s all a big mistake. But we still don’t know.
So what now?
Most of us are on a
path. A career, not just a job. A relationship, not just dating. We have a little
savings or getting to the end of paying off our debt (thanks early 20’s). So
should we follow our parents lead? Get married and have kids? No, that would be
silly. We’re not ready for that. We’ve only just figured out how to spew without
smudging our lipstick. Let’s not
complicate things.
Some of our friends have bought a house, a dog and a baby. I
know it seems horrible but it feels like they have admitted defeat. A job that
pays the bills and a ho-hum house that has “a big garden”. Remember when we avoided
houses with gardens because that meant we had to mow the lawn? No one wants to
do that on a Sunday morning with a hangover.
But these people don’t have hang overs anymore. They have 2
glasses of wine rather than two bottles and get home at a reasonable hour. Are
we really ready for that? Is that what our life will become or are we just
being childish by trying to hold onto our last shards of youth? Are we just
Peter Pan when it’s time to become Wendy?
Maybe we are truly brilliant people who want more from life
than to be a banker. What if we are THOSE people that do it all wrong but get
it all right because we did what felt good and not the sensible thing. Not the
thing that everyone else is doing. You know THAT thing., that’s not us. We’re
special and we know this because we are much wittier than our banker friends.
We don’t fit in with them so we must be the other type.
But here we are at the axis between young adulthood and a
real grown up. Having no idea what we want but just wanting more than everyone
else is settling for.